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My Final Scores

So six months ago I took an inital EQ assessment. You can read about the results here.

About a month ago I took the final assessment. I received my scores a few days later. My results are what I expected. I did not make huge changes in any of the EQ areas. As you can see with the exception of self-regulation, my scores are already above average in all the other areas.

The changes are all one to two point changes which to me seems pretty insignificant. If any of my friends are reading this I’d be curious to hear your thoughts. Feel free to comment.



Month 1 Wrap Up

So I started my EQmentoring journey a little over a month ago. Seems like now is a good time for a wrap up and check in.

Wow I cannot believe the difference a month has made. A month ago I was whining about my situation at work, complaining about things I can’t change, and feeling very helpless about work in general.

In this past month I have discovered my EQ strengths and weaknesses, learned some basics about EQ, and discovered that I am a procrastinator.

I think the hardest part of this is discovering things about yourself that you did not know. But once you tell yourself, “hey it’s ok I’m going to work on this,” then you discover this inner peace that you never knew you had. So even if you are not perfect (heck who is) you start to accept yourself which then gives you the confidence and spirit to work on areas that you need to work on.

One month ago I identified self-regulation and emotionalism as areas of my EQ to work on. Interestingly enough, my mentor and I talked very little about these areas but I still noticed improvement. Just by being aware that these are my weak areas I was able to constantly keep check of my emotions and reactions to situations.

So what did my mentor and I work on? We had several exchanges initially just to get to know each other. Then we spent some time working on my personal mission statement, career goals, and goals for our 6 month journey. I also had several “issues” at work where I was not sure what to do. Each time I posted a message to my mentor and received a reply with advice. There is an option to mark a post as urgent which lets your mentor know that you need a quick response. This in itself has been a lifesaver and a great learning experience. Hopefully I will learn from these exchanges so that the next time I encounter “issues” like these I will know how to react on my own.

It’s funny, when you go to school you learn how to do calculus, geometry, dissect pigs, but no one ever teaches you how to respond properly to a situation or policy that you don’t agree with or tells you how to get along with a difficult person. I have yet to use calculus, geometry, or pig anatomy outside of school, but EQ is something I use every hour!

IQ versus EQ

I thought it might be time to step back a bit and reflect on what my 6-month journey with EQ Mentor is all about. EQ.

To understand EQ you first need to understand intelligence.

Intelligence is the ability to reason, plan, solve problems, think abstractly, comprehend ideas, use language and learn.

All of those skills and knowledge are important. But what’s even more important is how you interact and communicate with people. EQ.

Emotional intelligence or emotional quotient is the ability to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of your self, others, and groups.

I love people, and one of the things I’ve done for years is to observe what makes someone great. What is the difference between good and great? What makes someone an ok manager versus a great manager? What makes someone a great friend as opposed to a good friend? Why are some people looked up to and admired?

You can have two people with equal IQs, equal experiences, but one person will shine. Why?

In my opinion it boils down to EQ. It is our interpersonal relations that make us or break us. You can be the smartest person in the world, but if you are a jerk you will not get very far. Along with this is your attitude. I’ve posted about this before but a positive attitude can go a long way.

EQ is made up of different components depending on which model you look at. They all basically add up to the same conclusion though. Here is the EQmentor model:

  • Self-awareness: the ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions, and drives, as well as their effects on others.
  • Self-regulation: the ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods and the propensity to suspend judgment to think before acting.
  • Motivation: a passion to work for reasons that go beyond money or status and the propensity to pursue goals with energy and persistence.
  • Empathy: the ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people and the skill to treat people according to their emotional reactions.
  • Social Skills: proficiency in managing relationships and building networks and the ability to find common ground and build rapport.

If you read carefully through those descriptions you can see how important EQ is and why it can make the difference between good and great.

Just by reading those can you think of an area you need to improve? What area are you strong in? You can view my scores here.

You can read more about EQ on the EQmentor website.

My Scores

I received an email with a copy of my EQ results from the Emotional Intelligence Assessment and Personality Inventory that I took last week.

The results were not really a surprise. I scored above average in all areas except Self-Regulation. I received a 26 in Self-Regulation. The average is around 37. Self-Regulation is the ability to think before speaking and acting. I already knew that this is one of my weakest areas. I tend to react and then pay for it later.

I scored well above average for Empathy.
Self-Awareness, Motivation, and Social Skills were slightly above average.


As far as the Personality Inventory no surprises there either. I’m slightly Extroverted. Very agreeable. Conscientious. Open-Minded. Off the charts Emotional!


So what does this all mean?

I would say overall I scored very well. But I have some areas that definitely need work! Self-Regulation and Emotionalism. I’m guessing that pair goes hand in hand. I’d be curious to see if others who score low in Self-Regulation also tend to be emotional.

I’ll try to give you an example of how I see that pairing.

I’m sure you’ve known someone who seems very sensitive or emotional. This type of person gets his or her feelings hurt very easily. Cries easily. Angers easily. Now with a low Self-Regulation score this type of person reacts on those feelings without thinking through the consequences. In other words, if you make me mad I’ll tell you what I think of you before I even ask for your side of the story!

Now that I have been scored I’m waiting to be paired up with a mentor. I’m really excited to “meet” this person!