I thought it might be time to step back a bit and reflect on what my 6-month journey with EQ Mentor is all about. EQ.
To understand EQ you first need to understand intelligence.
Intelligence is the ability to reason, plan, solve problems, think abstractly, comprehend ideas, use language and learn.
All of those skills and knowledge are important. But what’s even more important is how you interact and communicate with people. EQ.
Emotional intelligence or emotional quotient is the ability to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of your self, others, and groups.
I love people, and one of the things I’ve done for years is to observe what makes someone great. What is the difference between good and great? What makes someone an ok manager versus a great manager? What makes someone a great friend as opposed to a good friend? Why are some people looked up to and admired?
You can have two people with equal IQs, equal experiences, but one person will shine. Why?
In my opinion it boils down to EQ. It is our interpersonal relations that make us or break us. You can be the smartest person in the world, but if you are a jerk you will not get very far. Along with this is your attitude. I’ve posted about this before but a positive attitude can go a long way.
EQ is made up of different components depending on which model you look at. They all basically add up to the same conclusion though. Here is the EQmentor model:
- Self-awareness: the ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions, and drives, as well as their effects on others.
- Self-regulation: the ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods and the propensity to suspend judgment to think before acting.
- Motivation: a passion to work for reasons that go beyond money or status and the propensity to pursue goals with energy and persistence.
- Empathy: the ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people and the skill to treat people according to their emotional reactions.
- Social Skills: proficiency in managing relationships and building networks and the ability to find common ground and build rapport.
If you read carefully through those descriptions you can see how important EQ is and why it can make the difference between good and great.
Just by reading those can you think of an area you need to improve? What area are you strong in? You can view my scores here.
You can read more about EQ on the EQmentor website.